By Lori Marie
"When you stop taking things personally, you free yourself from unnecessary pain."
I am sure this sounds family. You were just being yourself and someone else behaved or spoke to you in a way that was not kind and hurt your feelings. Learning to stop taking things personally is one of the most powerful upgrades you can make in your life. When you recondition your beliefs and stop internalizing the actions or opinions of others, you unlock a level of freedom that can transform your relationships, your emotional well-being, and your entire perspective.
Why We Take Things Personally
Taking things personally stems from our own insecurities or unresolved wounds. When someone says or does something hurtful, it can feel like a personal attack—even when it has nothing to do with us. The truth is, other people’s behavior reflects their inner world, not ours. As you bring this understanding into your awareness, you can start the process of breaking free from the habit of taking things to heart. Here’s how you can shift this mindset and reclaim your peace of mind.
Step 1: Stop Before You React
When you feel triggered by someone’s words or actions, just pause. Before you react or even respond, take a moment to breathe. Reacting impulsively often deepens the hurt and keeps you stuck in the cycle of taking things personally.
Step 2: Tune Into Your Feelings
Ask yourself:
What did this make me feel?
Where in my body do I feel it?
Does this actually have anything to do with me?
This step is about awareness. For example, if someone makes a critical comment, and it stings, you might realize the real pain comes from an insecurity you already carry.
Step 3: Address the Trigger
When you feel the trigger, it’s time to dig deeper. Why did this upset you? Is there a past wound or belief that needs healing? For instance, if a comment about your work made you feel unworthy, ask yourself if you’re tying your value to external validation.
Shifting your perspective is key. Remind yourself: This isn’t about me. Their words or actions are a reflection of their perspective, not my truth.
Step 4: Let It Go
This is the hard part but also the most liberating: let it go. Whatever was said or done, release it. Holding on to resentment or pain only weighs you down, while letting go frees you to focus on what truly matters.
Note: If you have the mind set that if you let this go you are weak you have misunderstood the lesson and need to revisit it. To let go means you understand that you being triggered by their issue with you has nothing to do with you. You let that go. In order to deal with why you were triggered letting go can be a bit challenging and may need to take more self reflection once you are in a different space in a different moment. You identified it and that is half your inner battle. Not reacting to the person who triggered it keeps you from creating additional unneeded challenges for yourself.
Step 5: Experience Freedom
When you stop taking things personally, you literally free yourself from the weight of others’ opinions and personal challenges that have nothing to do with you or who you are. You stop internalizing negativity, and you give yourself permission to live authentically. Over time, this practice creates emotional resilience, allowing you to handle challenges with grace and clarity.
Final Thoughts From the Youniverse
This mindset shift isn’t necessarily easy—it may requires practice and need to become a new habit, some patience, and definitely a level of self-awareness. But every time you choose to stop, reflect, and release, you’re stepping into a more empowered version of yourself. This is the goal!
Freedom comes when you realize that other people’s actions and words are not a reflection of you but of them. The more you practice taking nothing personally, the more you’ll experience peace, joy, and unshakable confidence.
Are you ready to unlock and elevate?
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